My ARM as a DART BOARD

Yesterday, was our companies annual FLU VACCINATION held at our office. Everyone was joking around and making fun of the people who are afraid of needles (especially Perla and Ms. Lalaine), hehehe...

One by one entered the room to have their shots taken, I saw Perla going inside and went inside to make fun of her. As she was taking her shot, she keeps on moving her arm and the nurse (i guess) can't concentrate on pointing the needle. The funny thing was, she was holding the needle like a DART PIN, (as I said to my self WTFOMG) then her first try did not went through the skin and made the second try (again WTMFOMGODKP), then she already made it right. I went outside the room (having second thoughts), I'm really not that scared of needles but after what I saw, I don't know if I want her to do that to me as well.

And one of the officemate came out of the room and said he only have one try on his arm saying "Sabi ko sa babae, kapag hindi mo inayos hahalikan kita", and I guess it worked. For me, I was thinking of saying a different line, "Kapag hindi ka umayos, sasapakin kita", but ofcourse I didn't do that, I just trusted her to do her job well. Luckily, I to only had one try as well.

After that some other guys keeps on joking around and making fun of the nurse. Some are saying "Miss, gusto mo turukan kita","Gusto mo turuan kitang tumusok","Ibababa ko ba pantalon" (anuber, sa braso, hindi sa pwet).

Now thats how I experienced my arm being used as a Dart Board... WTFOMG

Just for TODAY...

Just for today, decide to be happy, to live with what is yours. If you can't have what you want, maybe you can like what you have. Just for today, decide to be kind. Be cheerful. Be agreeable. Be understanding. Be your best. Dress your best. Talk softly. Look for the bright side of things. Praise people instead of criticizing them. Just for today. Try it. After all, it's just for a day. Who knows you might like it and do it again tomorrow.

GOOD MORNING!

Visit the Philippines before Anywhere Else...

Most of us has been dreaming of going abroad, thinking that the other countries are much more beautiful than our own. Most of us also has this idea that we can find "Milk and Honey" out there and not here. Now let us see how much of our Country have you seen already. Then let us see how much do you know of the beauty of our country that most of us are neglecting to see.

My Lakbayan grade is C+!

How much of the Philippines have you visited? Find out at Lakbayan!

Created by Eugene Villar.

Career Advice...

***Just copied this from a friends Blog. This makes you think on what you really want in your life and not just making any excuses on you career...***

Makes sense...

1) For one, you shouldn't leave because you don't like several people in the company, nor should you stay because of the friends you have made here. At the end of the day, it is your life. Your friends or "enemies" should not make or break your career. If you let them be the deciding factor, then maybe you should think twice. You are the craftsman of your fate and the captain of your ship. Captain Hook shouldn't be one of your worries!

2) Do not leave nor stay because of the "brand" of your company. If that was the case, I would have rushed off and sign my JO in "C"! Ask yourself whether you want to be a big fish in a small pond or a small fish in a bigger pond. Know your priorities. Only you can answer that.

3) Do not leave the company because you're so damn frustrated about the way things are being run, or stay because you have this "messianic complex" that you can change things overnight. Be realistic about the things.Learn to accept that there is no perfect company. Be accepting that change is a slow and painful process at times and be thankful that you realize and act on things that can be changed and improved.

4) Definitely, do not leave or stay just because your parents want you to. I know I am advocating obedience to parents but again, we are talking about YOUR career. But learn to value their wisdom and discern well.

5) Money isn't everything. The package being offered now might be better but look at the long-term prospects. Do not leave or stay just solely on the compensation package. Look for growth prospects and review their career plans for you. Your immediate gains today might actually be a loss a few years from now if you do the Math.

6) Boredom is another challenge all professionals are faced with during lull periods in their career. Do not leave because you have become so bored with your job. Do not stay either because you want things as they are. Change is inevitable in any organization. Talk to your boss. Ask for more responsibilities or other tasks if you're bored. Enroll in a special course. If you're satisfied with the status quo and is just waiting for retirement hoping things will stay the same, you're in for a big disappointment - either you will be forced to change or you will be forced to leave. Be ready before that time comes. Boredom or complacency is perennial battle most professionals have to deal with. Arm yourself with creativity everyday!

7)Tonight I suggest you rest well. Sit still and listen to what He is saying. PRAY. I have always made my career decisions through His guidance. He was and still is my Career Adviser/Talent Manager. Your work, our work, is a vocation. He knows us more than we know ourselves so trust Him for whatever plans He has for you. You can never go wrong.

And remember: Use your head to get to the top. But use your heart to stay.

(thanks for this, Ms. Tet!)

Inspirations to My Dreams...

This Speech made by Mr. John Gokongwei is my very inspiration right now in pursuing my dream to have my Business. To become an entrepreneur.

Maybe one day I could also make a mark in the world and help to our country to be recognized in the world for what we have.

John Gokongwei , Jr. Ad Congress Speech Nov 21, 2007

Before I begin, I want to say please bear with me, an 81-year-old man who just flew in from San Francisco 36 hours ago and is still suffering from jet lag. However, I hope I will be able to say what you want to hear…

Ladies and gentlemen, good evening. Thank you very much for having me here tonight to open the Ad Congress. I know how important this event is for our marketing and advertising colleagues. My people get very excited and go into a panic, every other year, at this time.

I would like to talk about my life, entrepreneurship, and globalization. I would like to talk about how we can become a great nation.

You may wonder how one is connected to the other, but I promise that, as there is truth in advertising, the connection will come.

Let me begin with a story I have told many times. My own.

I was born to a rich Chinese-Filipino family. I spent my childhood in Cebu where my father owned a chain of movie houses, including the first air-conditioned one outside Manila. I was the eldest of six children and lived in a big house in Cebu's Forbes Park.

A chauffeur drove me to school everyday as I went to San Carlos University, then and still one of the country's top schools. I topped my classes and had many friends. I would bring them to watch movies for free at my father's movie houses.

When I was 13, my father died suddenly of complications due to typhoid. Everything I enjoyed vanished instantly. My father's empire was built on credit. When he died, we lost everything—our big house, our cars, our business—to the banks.

I felt angry at the world for taking away my father, and for taking away all that I enjoyed before. When the free movies disappeared, I also lost half my friends. On the day I had to walk two miles to school for the very first time, I cried to my mother, a widow at 32. But she said: "You should feel lucky. Some people have no shoes to walk to school. What can you do? Your father died with 10 centavos in his pocket."

So, what can I do? I worked.

My mother sent my siblings to China where living standards were lower. She and I stayed in Cebu to work, and we sent them money regularly. My mother sold her jewelry. When that ran out, we sold roasted peanuts in the backyard of our much-smaller home. When that wasn't enough, I opened a small stall in a palengke.

I chose one among several palengkes a few miles outside the city because there were fewer goods available for the people there. I woke up at five o'clock every morning for the long bicycle ride to the palengke with my basket of goods.

There, I set up a table about three feet by two feet in size. I laid out my goods—soap, candles, and thread—and kept selling until everything was bought. Why these goods? Because these were hard times and this was a poor village, so people wanted and needed the basics—soap to keep them clean, candles to light the night, and thread to sew their clothes.

I was surrounded by other vendors, all of them much older. Many of them could be my grandparents. And they knew the ways of the palengke far more than a boy of 15, especially one who had never worked before.

But being young had its advantages. I did not tire as easily, and I moved more quickly. I was also more aggressive. After each day, I would make about 20 pesos in profit! There was enough to feed my siblings and still enough to pour back into the business. The pesos I made in the palengke were the pesos that went into building the business I have today .

After this experience, I told myself, " If I can compete with people so much older than me, if I can support my whole family at 15, I can do anything!"

Looking back, I wonder, what would have happened if my father had not left my family with nothing? Would I have become the man I am? Who knows?

The important thing to know is that life will always deal us a few bad cards. But we have to play those cards the best we can. And WE can play to win!

This was one lesson I picked up when I was a teenager. It has been my guiding principle ever since. And I have had 66 years to practice self-determination. When I wanted something, the best person to depend on was myself.

And so I continued to work. In 1943, I expanded and began trading goods between Cebu and Manila. From Cebu, I would transport tires on a small boat called a batel. After traveling for five days to Lucena, I would load them into a truck for the six- hour trip to Manila. I would end up sitting on top of my goods so they would not be stolen! In Manila, I would then purchase other goods from the earnings I made from the tires, to sell in Cebu.

Then, when WWII ended, I saw the opportunity for trading goods in post-war Philippines. I was 20 years old. With my brother Henry, I put up Amasia Trading which imported onions, flour, used clothing, old newspapers and magazines, and fruits from the United States. In 1948, my mother and I got my siblings back from China. I also converted a two-story building in Cebu to serve as our home, office, and warehouse all at the same time. The whole family began helping out with the business .

In 1957, at age 31, I spotted an opportunity in corn-starch manufacturing. But I was going to compete with Ludo and Luym, the richest group in Cebu and the biggest cornstarch manufacturers. I borrowed money to finance the project. The first bank I approached made me wait for two hours, only to refuse my loan. The second one, China Bank, approved a P500,000-peso clean loan for me. Years later, the banker who extended that loan, Dr. Albino Sycip said that he saw something special in me. Today, I still wonder what that was, but I still thank Dr. Sycip to this day.

Upon launching our first product, Panda corn starch , a price war ensued. After the smoke cleared, Universal Corn Products was still left standing. It is the foundation upon which JG Summit Holdings now stands.

Interestingly, the price war also forced the closure of a third cornstarch company, and one of their chemists was Lucio Tan, who always kids me that I caused him to lose his job. I always reply that if it were not for me, he will not be one of the richest men in the Philippines today.

When my business grew, and it was time for me to bring in more people—my family, the professionals, the consultants, more employees—I knew that I had to be there to teach them what I knew. When dad died at age 34, he did not leave a succession plan. From that, I learned that one must teach people to take over a business at any time.. The values of hard work that I learned from my father, I taught to my children. They started doing jobs here and there even when they were still in high school. Six years ago, I announced my retirement and handed the reins to my youngest brother James and only son Lance. But my children tease me because I still go to the office every day and make myself useful. I just hired my first Executive Assistant and moved into a bigger and nicer office.

Building a business to the size of JG Summit was not easy. Many challenges were thrown my way. I could have walked away from them, keeping the business small, but safe. Instead, I chose to fight. But this did not mean I won each time.

By 1976, at age 50, we had built significant businesses in food products anchored by a branded coffee called Blend 45, and agro-industrial products under the Robina Farms brand. That year, I faced one of my biggest challenges, and lost. And my loss was highly publicized, too. But I still believe that this was one of my defining moments.

In that decade, not many business opportunities were available due to the political and economic environment. Many Filipinos were already sending their money out of the country. As a Filipino, I felt that our money must be invested here. I decided to purchase shares in San Miguel, then one of the Philippines' biggest corporations. By 1976, I had acquired enough shares to sit on its board.

The media called me an upstart. " Who is Gokongwei and why is he doing all those terrible things to San Miguel?" ran one headline of the day. In another article, I was described as a pygmy going up against the powers-that-be. The San Miguel board of directors itself even aid for an ad in all the country's top newspapers telling the public why I should not be on the board. On the day of reckoning, shareholders quickly filled up the auditorium to witness the battle. My brother James and I had prepared for many hours for this debate. We were nervous and excited at the same time.

In the end, I did not get the board seat because of the Supreme Court Ruling. But I was able to prove to others—and to myself—that I was willing to put up a fight. I succeeded because I overcame my fear, and tried. I believe this battle helped define who I am today. In a twist to this story, I was invited to sit on the board of Anscor and San Miguel Hong Kong 5 years later. Lose some, win some.

Since then, I've become known as a serious player in the business world, but the challenges haven't stopped coming.

Let me tell you about the three most recent challenges. In all three, conventional wisdom bet against us. See, we set up businesses against market Goliaths in very high-capital industries: airline, telecoms, and beverage.

Challenge No. 1 : In 1996, we decided to start an airline. At the time, the dominant airline in the country was PAL, and if you wanted to travel cheaply, you did not fly. You went by sea or by land.

However, my son Lance and I had a vision for Cebu Pacific: We wanted every Filipino to fly.

Inspired by the low-cost carrier models in the United States, we believed that an airline based on the no-frills concept would work here. No hot meals. No newspaper. Mono-class seating. Operating with a single aircraft type. Faster turn around time. It all worked, thus enabling Cebu Pacific to pass on savings to the consumer.

How did we do this? By sticking to our philosophy of "low cost, great value ."

And we stick to that philosophy to this day. Cebu Pacific offers incentives. Customers can avail themselves of a tiered pricing scheme, with promotional seats for as low a P1. The earlier you book, the cheaper your ticket.

Cebu Pacific also made it convenient for passengers by making online booking available. This year, 1.25 million flights will be booked through our website. This reduced our distribution costs dramatically.

Low cost. Great value.

When we started 11 years ago, Cebu Pacific flew only 360,000 passengers, with 24 daily flights to 3 destinations. This year, we expect to fly more than five million passengers, with over 120 daily flights to 20 local destinations and 12 Asian cities. Today, we are the largest in terms of domestic flights, routes and destinations..

We also have the youngest fleet in the region after acquiring new Airbus 319s and 320s. In January, new ATR planes will arrive. These are smaller planes that can land on smaller air strips like those in Palawan and Caticlan. Now you don't have to take a two-hour ride by mini-bus to get to the beach.

Largely because of Cebu Pacific, the average Filipino can now afford to fly. In 2005, 1 out of 12 Filipinos flew within a year. In 2012, by continuing to offer low fares, we hope to reduce that ratio to 1 out of 6. We want to see more and more Filipinos see their country and the world!

Challenge No. 2: In 2003, we established Digitel Mobile Philippines, Inc. and developed a brand for the mobile phone business called Sun Cellular. Prior to the launch of the brand, we were actually involved in a transaction to purchase PLDT shares of the majority shareholder.

The question in everyone's mind was how we could measure up to the two telecom giants. They were entrenched and we were late by eight years! PLDT held the landline monopoly for quite a while, and was first in the mobile phone industry. Globe was a younger company, but it launched digital mobile technology here.

But being a late player had its advantages. We could now build our platform from a broader perspective. We worked with more advanced technologies and intelligent systems not available ten years ago. We chose our suppliers based on the most cost-efficient hardware and software. Being a Johnny-come-lately allowed us to create and launch more innovative products, more quickly.

All these provided us with the opportunity to give the consumers a choice that would rock their world. The concept was simple. We would offer Filipinos to call and text as much as they want for a fixed monthly fee. For P250 a month, they could get in touch with anyone within the Sun network at any time. This means great savings of as much as 2/3 of their regular phone bill! Suddenly, we gained traction. Within one year of its introduction, Sun hit one million customers.

Once again, the paradigm shifts - this time in the telecom industry. Sun's 24/7 Call and Text unlimited changed the landscape of mobile-phone usage.

Today, we have over 4 million subscribers and 2000 cell sites around the archipelago. In a country where 97% of the market is pre-paid, we believe we have hit on the right strategy.

Sun Cellular is a Johnny-come-lately, but it's doing all right. It is a third player, but a significant one, in an industry where Cassandras believed a third player would perish. And as we have done in the realm of air travel, so have we done in the telecom world: We have changed the marketplace.

In the end, it is all about making life better for the consumer by giving them choices.

Challenge No. 3: In 2004, we launched C2, the green tea drink that would change the face of the local beverage industry -- then, a playground of cola companies. Iced tea was just a sugary brown drink served bottomless in restaurants. For many years, hardly was there any significant product innovation in the beverage business.

Admittedly, we had little experience in this area. Universal Robina Corporation is the leader in snack foods but our only background in beverage was instant coffee. Moreover, we would be entering the playground of huge multinationals. We decided to play anyway.

It all began when I was in China in 2003 and noticed the immense popularity of bottled iced tea. I thought that this product would have huge potential here. We knew that the Philippines was not a traditional tea-drinking country since more familiar to consumers were colas in returnable glass bottles. But precisely, this made the market ready for a different kind of beverage. One that refreshes yet gives the health benefits of green tea. We positioned it as a "spa" in a bottle. A drink that cools and cleans…thus, C2 was born.

C2 immediately caught on with consumers. When we launched C2 in 2004, we sold 100,000 bottles in the first month. Three years later, Filipinos drink around 30 million bottles of C2 per month. Indeed, C2 is in a good place.

With Cebu Pacific, Sun Cellular, and C2, the JG Summit team took control of its destiny. And we did so in industries where old giants had set the rules of the game. It's not that we did not fear the giants. We knew we could have been crushed at the word go. So we just made sure we came prepared with great products and great strategies. We ended up changing the rules of the game instead.

There goes the principle of self-determination, again. I tell you, it works for individuals as it does for companies. And as I firmly believe, it works for nations.

I have always wondered, like many of us, why we Filipinos have not lived up to our potential. We have proven we can. Manny Pacquiao and Efren Bata Reyes in sports. Lea Salonga and the UP Madrigal Singers in performing arts. Monique Lhuillier and Rafe Totenco in fashion. And these are just the names made famous by the media. There are many more who may not be celebrities but who have gained respect on the world stage.

But to be a truly great nation, we must also excel as entrepreneurs before the world. We must create Filipino brands for the global market place.

If we want to be philosophical, we can say that, with a world-class brand, we create pride for our nation. If we want to be practical, we can say that, with brands that succeed in the world, we create more jobs for our people, right here.

Then, we are able to take part in what's really important—giving our people a big opportunity to raise their standards of living, giving them a real chance to improve their lives.

We can do it. Our neighbors have done it. So can we.

In the last 54 years, Korea worked hard to rebuild itself after a world war and a civil war destroyed it. From an agricultural economy in 1945, it shifted to light industry, consumer products, and heavy industry in the '80s. At the turn of the 21 st century, the Korean government focused on making Korea the world's leading IT nation. It did this by grabbing market share in key sectors like semiconductors, robotics, and biotechnology.

Today, one remarkable Korean brand has made it to the list of Top 100 Global Brands: Samsung. Less then a decade ago, Samsung meant nothing to consumers. By focusing on quality, design, and innovation, Samsung improved its products and its image. Today, it has surpassed the Japanese brand Sony. Now another Korean brand, LG Collins, is following in the footsteps of Samsung. It has also broken into the Top 100 Global Brands list..

What about China? Who would have thought that only 30 years after opening itself up to a market economy, China would become the world's fourth largest economy? Goods made in China are still thought of as cheap. Yet many brands around the world outsource their manufacturing to this country. China's own brands—like Lenovo, Haier, Chery QQ, and Huawei—are fast gaining ground as well. I have no doubt they will be the next big electronics, technology and car brands in the world.

Lee Kwan Yu's book "From Third World to First" captures Singapore's aspiration to join the First World. According to the book, Singapore was a trading post that the British developed as a nodal point in its maritime empire. The racial riots there made its officials determined to build a "multiracial society that would give equality to all citizens, regardless of race, language or religion."
When Singapore was asked to leave the Malaysian Federation of States in 1965, Lee Kwan Yew developed strategies that he executed with single-mindedness despite their being unpopular. He and his cabinet started to build a nation by establishing the basics: building infrastructure, establishing an army, weeding out corruption, providing mass housing, building a financial center. Forty short years after, Singapore has been transformed into the richest South East Asian country today, with a per capita income of US$32,000.

These days, Singapore is transforming itself once more. This time it wants to be the creative hub in Asia, maybe even the world. More and more, it is attracting the best minds from all over the world in filmmaking, biotechnology, media, and finance. Meantime, Singaporeans have also created world-class brands: Banyan Tree in the hospitality industry, Singapore Airlines in the Airline industry and Singapore Telecoms in the telco industry.

I often wonder: Why can't the Philippines, or a Filipino, do this?

Fifty years after independence, we have yet to create a truly global brand. We cannot say the Philippines is too small because it has 86 million people. Switzerland, with 9 million people, created Nestle. Sweden, also with 9 million people, created Ericsson . Finland, even smaller with five million people, created Nokia. All three are major global brands, among others.

Yes, our country is well-known for its labor, as we continue to export people around the world. And after India, we are grabbing a bigger chunk of the pie in the call-center and business-process-outsourcing industries. But by and large, the Philippines has no big industrial base, and Filipinos do not create world-class products.

We should not be afraid to try—even if we are laughed at. Japan, laughed at for its cars, produced Toyota. Korea, for its electronics, produced Samsung. Meanwhile, the Philippines' biggest companies 50 years ago—majority of which are multinational corporations such as Coca-Cola, Procter and Gamble, and Unilever Philippines, for example—are still the biggest companies today. There are very few big, local challengers.

But already, hats off to Filipino entrepreneurs making strides to globalize their brands.

Goldilocks has had much success in the Unites States and Canada, where half of its customers are non-Filipinos. Coffee-chain Figaro may be a small player in the coffee world today, but it is making the leap to the big time. Two Filipinas, Bea Valdez and Tina Ocampo , are now selling their Philippine-made jewelry and bags all over the world. Their labels are now at Barney's and Bergdorf's in the U.S. and in many other high-end shops in Asia, Europe, and the Middle East.

When we started our own foray outside the Philippines 30 years ago, it wasn't a walk in the park. We set up a small factory in Hong Kong to manufacture Jack and Jill potato chips there. Today, we are all over Asia. We have the number-one-potato-chips brand in Malaysia and Singapore. We are the leading biscuit manufacturer in Thailand, and a significant player in the candy market in Indonesia. Our Aces cereal brand is a market leader in many parts of China. C2 is now doing very well in Vietnam, selling over 3 million bottles a month there, after only 6 months in the market. Soon, we will launch C2 in other South East Asian markets.

I am 81 today. But I do not forget the little boy that I was in the palengke in Cebu. I still believe in family. I still want to make good. I still don't mind going up against those older and better than me. I still believe hard work will not fail me. And I still believe in people willing to think the same way.

Through the years, the market place has expanded: between cities, between countries, between continents. I want to urge you all here to think bigger. Why serve 86 million when you can sell to four billion Asians? And that's just to start you off. Because there is still the world beyond Asia. When you go back to your offices, think of ways to sell and market your products and services to the world. Create world-class brands.

You can if you really tried. I did. As a boy, I sold peanuts from my backyard. Today, I sell snacks to the world.

I want to see other Filipinos do the same.

Thank you and good evening once again.

How do I know if I married the right person???

***Disclaimer: I just received this through e-mail and I like the idea that this is implying to all of us. Something to think about not only in relationships but in life as well.***

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if theycome at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a ho bby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few yearslater. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in andday out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . not just a feeling.

Singles may ponder on this too.... for future reference! =)

"When God increases our blessings, it is not meant to be our reward, it's a call to do greater things as worthy tenants"

Why most people quit their JOB???

This was just sent to me by a friend and it was quit a coincidence that we were feeling the same way as what this message ment.

Not all may agree but it is a know fact.

Why most people quit their job?


i found this story sent to me by my previous supervisor before. The author or the source is unknown so i will copy the whole story here. Take time to read, there are some lessons to learn.

Early this year, Arun, an old friend who is a senior software designer,got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing a specialized software.

He was thrilled by the offer. He had heard a lot about the CEO of this company, a charismatic man often quoted in the business press for his visionary attitude. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place - employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office, the very best technology, even a canteen that served superb food.

Twice Arun was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been," he said soon after he joined. "It's a realhigh working with such cutting edge technology."

Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Arun walked out ofthe job. He has no other offer in hand but he said he couldn't take it anymore. Nor, apparently, could several other people in his department who have also quit recently.

The CEO is distressed about the high employee turnover. He's distressed about the money he's spent in training them. He's distressed because he can't figure out what happened. Why did this talented employee leave despite a top salary?

Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away. The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called First Break All The Rules.

It came up with this surprising finding:If you're losing good people, look to their immediate supervisor. More than any other single reason, he is the reason people stay and thrivein an organization. And he's the reason why they quit, taking their knowledge, experience and contacts with them. Often, straight to the competition.

"People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus Buckinghamand Curt Coffman. "So much money has been thrown at the challenge of keeping good people - in the form of better pay, better perks and better training - when, in the end, turnover is mostly a manager issue." If you have a turnover problem, look first to your managers.

Are they driving people away?

Beyond a point, an employee's primary need has less to do with money, and more to do with how he's treated and how valued he feels. Much of this depends directly on the immediate manager.

And yet, bad bosses seem to happen to good people everywhere. A Fortune magazine survey some years ago found that nearly 75 per centof employees have suffered at the hands of difficult superiors. You canleave one job to find - you guessed it, another wolf in a pin-stripe suit in the next one.

Of all the workplace stressors, a bad boss is possibly the worst,directly impacting the emotional health and productivity of employees.

Here are some all-too common tales from the battlefield:

Dev, an engineer, still shudders as he recalls the almost daily firings his boss subjected him to, usually in front of his subordinates. His boss emasculated him with personal, insulting remarks. In the face of such rage, Dev completely lost the courage to speak up. But when he reached home depressed, he poured himself a few drinks, and magically, became as abusive as the boss himself. Only, it would come out on his wife and children. Not only was his work life in the doldrums, his marriage begun cracking up too.

Another employee Rajat recalls the Chinese torture his boss put him through after a minor disagreement. He cut him off completely. Hebypassed him in any decision that needed to be taken. "He stopped sending me any papers or files," says Rajat. "It was humiliating sitting at an empty table. I knew nothing and no one told me anything." Unable to bear this corporate Siberia, he finally quit.

HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find public humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he starts looking for another job.

When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don't have your heart and soul in the job."

Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, too nit-picky. But they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a seemingly trivial issue.

It isn't the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It's the 99 that went before. And while it's true that people leave jobs for all kinds of reasons - for better opportunities or for circumstantial reasons - many who leave would have stayed - had it not been for one man constantly telling them, as Arun's boss did: "You are dispensable. I can find dozens like you."

PLEASE Lang Tanggapin Mo Na!!!

Over hearing a phone conversation... (First part assuming lang para medyo humaba...)

MH: Helo! Papa Bear... Musta ka na??

HP: Tuloy ba yung lakad natin sa Sabado??

MH: Tawagan mo na lang si ___ siya magdadala ng sasakyan...***after ng ilang topics ng usapan***

MH: May offer sakin Managerial Position... Anu ba mga tinanong sayo??

HP: (another assumptions for HP) Basta kung anu-ano...

MH: Sinu ba nag-interview sayo??

HP: Si ____

MH: Ah! Sila ba tumawag sayo??

HP: Oo sila tumawag sakin... Kapag tinanong ka ng "Name you Price!" sabihin mo lang yung gusto mo talaga...

MH: Ahhh! Ganun ba?! Oo nga naman, sila tumawag hindi naman ako eh.... Hihihihi...

***As I was listening, a voice at the back of my head "Please lang tanggapin mo na...."
This is just some conversation over-heard inside an office...***

CRIMPING

Does anyone know how to connect the LAN Cable/ Internet Cable with the RJ45? Well I don't...

It's been more than a month since we bought a LAN Cable, an RJ-45 and a Linksys Router. I was the one who suggested for us to buy this things in order for us to maximize the internet subscription of brother with Smart Bro.

Anyway, when plan on buying this things - the LAN Cable and the RJ-45 is not yet crimped together or joined together. Well this wasn't my first impression. The crimping of the two (2) will cost you aroung Php 20.00 per RJ-45 if you have done at a computer store inside a mall. I believing that it would be easy in crimping the two together said to my mom "Wag na! Mahal masyado kung Php 20.00 each. Ako na bahala dyan marunong naman siguro yung mga kabarkada ko eh" After buying all the stuff we need to create a small LAN connection at home, I called-up my friends and ask them who could help me out with my problem. But none of them could help me out.

In short, this crimping thing became my biggest problem. Just this past few days I remembered to ask our IT Technical team at the office to help me out but they also forgot how to do it - maybe not forgot but the color coding arrangement of the eight (8) wires of the LAN Cable. So I asked for the help of our Graphic Designer, searched the web for the crimping instructions and there we printed out the web page. I went home and tried studying the graphics and when I was about to try it out, I seem to have lost the four (4) pieces of RJ-45. Damn! I bought another four (4) pieces and just this night tried to follow the instructions - at first it seemed a little bit difficult but I just went with my instincts and finished it.

Now the moment has come to try it out, if I have done it the way it supposed to be. Just this night after trying - Yehey! I succeeded, but first I tried to setting-up the LAN connection of our PC before finally using it. And now I am enjoying the fruits of my labor. Hehehe.

Now I can surf the net and chat with my GF without bringing home our company's laptop...

IMMATURITY AND PROFESSIONALISM

A boss should be the who protects their subordinates and helps them in there concerns with there work and coaches them whenever they have questions. Everything that happens to the department that she is handling will reflect on her capabilities as a leader, whether she can help it improve.

This is not what is happening with my work, this boss is "sinisiraan ka sa mga clients mo or ibang tao, pati sa top management". Doesn't stick to what she says or committed. Naiiba na ang sinabi nya kapag nagkakaipitan na. May mga side comments na hindi magaganda. Nagtatrabaho mag-isa, hndi marunong magshare ng informations sa mga client namin. Hindi nya kayang tanggapin mga pagkakamali nya. Sipsip sa mga boss, at napaka moody na ang mga tao nya ang nahihirapan sa trabaho nila dahil hindi mo siya makausap ng maayos. Pinapagalitan ka kapag nireremind mo siya sa appointments, sa mga pendings nya samin. In other words, she's a FREAK of NATURE. This kind of person will never change and will forever be a toxic and torn to those who will under her supervision.

I don't want to leave and resign because I don't her to think that she has won, but before anything else I will do everything in my power to expose her. I will also make sure that she will know that she is messing with the wrong person, this is in a different way. I won't stoop down to her level and fight her in her own game, I'll bring this to my own level and were I know that I have the edge.
You better watch out, because Nice Guy's don't get angry they Just Get Back at You!!! Mr. Nice Guy; Jackie Chan Movie.

"A bad person who slanders a good one is like a person who looks up and spits at heaven... Her spit never reaches the sky, it falls back into her own face..." So watch out, you will see your spit falling back at your face...

Doctor QUACK....

Today, I didn't go to work because I'm not feeling well and I'm not up to it. So I decided to stay at home and just fix some personal stuffs. First, I plan to go to a certain bank and have my ATM card replaced because it is broken already. Next I decided to go to a doctor and have my right thumb checked. It has been hurtin for almost a month now.

I woke up in bed and texted my boss that I'm coming to work today, she replied "ok, noted", like should would on an average day. I ate my breakfast and talked to my Mom that I will borrowing our car for me to go to the bank and have a check-up. I told her that with our healthcard I would go to this hospital (same name as my sister) which is an accredited hospital of our companies healthcard. She adviced me to try some other hospitals because, as what happened to my grandmother and father before, they weren't really taken care off that much when they were admitted in that hospital.

I first decided to go to the bank because I was running a little late already, and since the bank has no lunch breaks, I went their first. I handed out my old card, and to my surprise my savings are almost depleted because I was already below minimum on that account. I even have to pay PHP 50.00 for a new card which will be deducted to my depletin savings. So I told the teller that I would just deposit some money to my account as not to have my account closed due to insuficient funds. The teller informed me that I could get my card this coming Wednesday, but I have no time to get myself. I asked her if I could have someone get it for me, but I am the only who could be allowed to get it. I again asked if I could just pick it up on other branches but she said that I could only get it to the branch where I opened my account. So now I leave the bank and probably get it on some other day.

After, going to the bank, I decided to head for SM Hypermart Valenzuela. Since it's almost twelve 12:00PM and almost lunch break, I should just get myself something to eat. Since I could just for a few minutes, I first decided to hit the arcade. I bought myself 5 tokens at Quantum. I scounted for a game to play, I saw someone playing "Tekken Tag", I after the other player was defeated I tried my luck. I easily defeated the guy, and won 3 times and loose again, and won again 4 times. I other words, Ithose 5 tokens well worth played. After a game, I decided to eat alreay. I went to the food court, thinking that I could spend less eating there. I selected on some few food choices, I came to choosing Fatboy's Pizza. I selected to eat their Giant Porkchop meal. I thought I would be satisfied since the meat is really big. After waiting for 5 minutes for my meal, I then sat on an empty table. I started to taste the food, and to my surprise, the stupid food taste AWFULL. The food some how tastes like a burnt food or even a rotten food. I tried finishing the food, since I don't putting it into waste but after a long struggle, I really couldn't finish eating the food. So I left the food unfinished and left my stomach unsatisfied as well. After leaving, I was thinking to myself that I should have approached the establishment and complaint on the bad taste of their food and get my money back. I think, I should be more strong next time as not to let this people get away with bad food and services.

After eacting I decided to head on to the doctors clinic for my check-up. My car is parked in this mall, and I was thinking if i should bring it to the hospital knowing that their is only limited parking space. I finally decided to leave the car and just take a jeepney to the hospital.
As I arrived to the hospital, I quickly searched for the clinic of the our healthcard. The referral will come from the Accounting Department. I informed the personnel that I will have my right thumb checked. She asked her co-worker to whom will they refer me since the PT and the Ortho, and finally said that they will refer me to a surgeon. I was thinking back then, my mom is right that this might not be a good decision coming to this hospital for a check-up. I went to the doctor which they refered me to, and according to the assistant of the good doctor, he is out for a while. I waited for the doctor, while the assistant texted her. The doctor called and talked to me over the phone. He tried to analyze my situation over the phone. Said that he will give me pain reliever and have my hand X-rayed. Again, I think this was a mistake going here. Where have you seen a doctor do a check-up over the phone and already advicing what to give and what to do. As I went out of the clinic, I saw an old friend from college, Stephanie. Judging from her looks and what she is carrying I already guest that she is a medrep. So we chatted for a while, and she even gave me a Vitamin C bottle, which is already due to expire this coming November. She was also going to the other building looking for a client, while I'm going to the admissions for approval of my X-ray. I entered the admission, after awhile I noticed that the persons inside were all students. I looked outside and saw that it was an admission for students. Stupid me! hahaha. So I went already to the admissions for approval, after reading the form, she saw that their were no diagnosis from the doctor so she cannot let me have an x-ray. She called the doctors office and informed them of the situation. I waited for while again, thinking that this was a big mistake and that I should just leave. Their came a call from the doctors clinic saying that their diagnosis was "Soft Tissue Rheumatism".
I then had my x-ray and borrowed the film for a while and went back to the doctors clinic. The doctor examined me at last, physically. Said that their are no fractures that he felt and nothing showed on the x-ray. Again, said that I should take the medicines as pain relievers because it woudl take some time for this pain come off because I don't have any good rests for my fingers during work.
After all of that I already went home, thinking to my self that place is not so reliable at all. I decided to take the medicines according to his prescription and if still doesn't work, I will go to another doctor for check-up.

A lesson learned, I food, product or service isn't good, complain. If you don't trust the hospital and the doctor, leave.

Stolen...

Last Tuesday I lost my cellphone while I'm going home. At first we had a workout class at our office and after a hard workout, I became hungry and asked my friend Pam to come with and eat at KFC. By the way I did not change my workout clothes, I was wearing a jogging pants. I have two phones, Nokia 3530 and our company phone which is the Ericsson K608i. I placed both phones at the left pocket of my jogging pants which makes it really bulky and my pocket is quite shallow. So we ate at KFC and after eating hard fulll dinner we went out to smoke. After smoking we headed out going to Ayala Ave., Pam will ride an FX beside Standard Chartered building while I was going to take a jeepney going to Ayala MRT. The jeepney was not full yet when I entered, but after a few minutes the jeepney was full already. The last guy who entered seated at my left side, the same side where my two phones are located. I already was worried that he sat on my phones. I really would like to take a look at my phones that time but the jeepney was so full I have to space to move that much. So the first stopped was at Allied Bank building and some people got down the jeepney. I immediately looked at my pocket to see if anything happend to my phones. As I touched my left pocket to my surprise one of my phones were missing already. Guess what the phone that was missing is my Nokia 3530. You guys might say "so what" and think that it's such a cheap and old phone so why bother. Back to the story, I tried searching my left side and back to the right but I could see my phone anywhere. I immediately have a thought that it may fell from my pocket when I was eating at KFC, so when we reached Makati Shangri-La I went down and run all the way to KFC Rufino St. As I reached the store, I asked the crew if they saw any phones that I left, as what I expected they did not see anything so I left my calling card just in case anyone might return it but until now theirs no word.

As I was going out of the store I was thinking that I should have stayed at the jeepney and look for my phone but it was too late. So I tried calling my phone and it was still ringing but no one was answering it. I texted Paula (Mahal Ko) and informed her of what had happened. Afterwards I texted my brother (Diko) so I could have a ride with him going home because I no longer have the strength to take any public vehicle going home.

I even tried texting the person and pleaded to return my phone, even offering money in exchange to return my phone and even just e-mail my contacts. To my despise I found out that he was texting my cousins and friends. Texting them with "malaswa" and "bastos na mga text". I already accepted the fact that my phone will not be returned to me but after finding out that he was doing this I came to a decision and hunt him down. I was thinking on having someone text him and see if he will take the bait and meet with that person and once he approaches I will have some friends mog him. One of cousins gave me an idea to get some help from our uncle which is a cop.

For now this is my story, I will add a new one when I have some results on my plan.

By the way I named this blog entry as "stolen" because even though it fell from my pocket if I'm not mistaken, it felt like it was stolen because of the things that guy is doing. I want to consider this a crime from him. I would also like to appologize on my entry if the thoughts of each paragraph of different context this is my first entry.